Yoga
March 26, 2009
We went to baby yoga today. Hallam loved it (laughing! Laughing and smiling and he’d had No Nap beforehand!) but I am not convinced. The yoga itself was lovely, but the people? Were not my sort of people. Sigh. Or maybe it’s just that I am socially inept. It goes something like this:
“Hi, my name is Fiona. This is Hallam. No no, not Alan. No, not Callum. Ha-llam. So. I am judging you right now and working out if we have any potential things in common, beyond our children. Probably not. Meh. I’ll just stand over there and talk to my baby, thus defeating the object of coming in the first place.”
It’s just one class though, right? And not reflective of the ENTIRE baby-having population of Exeter. So I must persevere, with the baby massage and the sing and sign and the jolly babies and bouncing babies and.. One day I’ll find someone nice? Or shall I just stick to socialising over the internet? I got a husband online, maybe I’ll just get ALL my friends here from now on.
We’ll be there again next Thursday though. Because the yoga, I like it. And maybe I will be less inept/judgemental then.
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Moxie | March 27, 2009 at 2:58 pm
I empathise hugely hun.
“So. I am judging you right now and working out if we have any potential things in common, beyond our children. Probably not. Meh. I’ll just stand over there and talk to my baby, thus defeating the object of coming in the first place.”
Could have been me writing about my first visit to the Breast Feeding Group Open Day up here (just pre Nova) except I didn’t have a baby with me, just a mahoosive bump, so I stood touching slings, reading leaflets until it was time to run away…
I’ve heard tell that some folk don’t find this social stuff in the least bit hard you know and that they actually find having a baby makes it easier – wtf?!
)
You will be fine hun. There are lots of lovely, arty, open minded, non competitive, mums out there who are on your wavelength I am sure. Next week will be better.
(If not, hurrah for the Internet.)
x
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superfi | March 27, 2009 at 8:34 pm
Thank you lovely, it’s good to know i am not alone! I’ve been crap at making friends always I think.. ho hum. I may be slightly better at it with a baby in fact, but.. I think OTHERS are crap too, they can’t talk about anything else. It’s all centiles and milestones. (Which, actually, I am not fussed about anymore at all!) Maybe this changes once the babies are a bit bigger though…
Did you go back to the bf group? Did you make friends!? I guess 2 so close in age will theoretically mean you won’t have to make so many mumfriends as yours can keep each other busy. Bill and I had best get cracking
(Yes, the internet.. it’s fab! Where would we be without it?! It’s crazy to think that both of us would have entirely different LIVES, people, babies, etc. if it weren’t for the interweb!!)
Love to you all, xxxxx
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Moxie | March 28, 2009 at 2:28 pm
I did go back to the bf group – I was walking back to the car with a tiny Nova in a sling and Rox in her pushchair and I saw the woman who ran it so I said hi and thought I’d be brave. Once inside I smiled at lots of frosty people, died inside and then the woman who ran it said ‘how old is your baby?’. I said ‘he’s 11 days’ and she sneered and went ‘humf, there’s a 9 day old over there’ like it was some sort of competition. I felt every emotion under the sun (mainly humiliation!) in about 4 seconds (post partum hormones still raging, mega tired new mum blah, blah) so made my excuses and left. I told myself I would go back, then take Rox to some class at the library, then take her to music class and I haven’t done any of them. We tried to take her to a soft play place the other day and me & DH were practically hyper-ventilating as it was so crowded and full of… well, people we have nothing in common with apart from having kids and don’t really want to have to talk to about pointless stuff, lol.
Anyway, maybe this time I’ll be brave and try BF group again… Oh? Did I say this time? Do I have amazing news? Do I? Oh, I think I do!
)
And yes, hurrah for the www and hurrah for us having FAB lives because of it! You are so right. I kept the hard drive from the machine I met DH on when my PC blew up just because it changed our lives sooooo much.
AMAZING!
And I’m glad it brought you such love and good fortune too!
Big happy hugs
xxx
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superfi | March 28, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Yay!!!!!!
Stick, little bean! 
So happy for you, xxxx
(I want to write more, and did on your blog, but must must get away from the computer and into bed!)
xxxxx